Friday, October 26, 2012
I went back and forth on whether or not to do this post since everybody (rightly so) has their own opinion re: what people share on FB and other social media sites. I decided to do it mostly voicing my own opinion on it and how my views have changed in different stages of my life. Warning: If this bores you, you should probs stop reading now because a) this post is going to be lengthy & b) you might not agree with me. Sorry, I'm not sorry.
I will be the first to admit that I used to be one of those people who scoffed at certain things people posted on FB. For example, just this year (before the bun) I recall posting a kind of rude status that went something like this: "really excited you are pregnant, but we don't care if your baby is the size of a blueberry, apple, banana, or avocado." Granted this was after a few margaritas, but I can't find the post because I woke up and immediately deleted it feeling pretty bad and mean. Given where we are in our lives now I would NEVER ever ever post something like that. Who am I to judge how someone celebrates probably the best and most important thing ever to happen to them? Sure, I choose not to update about that certain aspect, but that doesn't give me the right whatsoever to openly criticize someone who does.
Just the other day I updated my status to "Hubby got us Bryan Adam tickets." Some people might find this highly annoying. In fact, right after I posted this another one of my FB friends wrote "the use of the word hubby should be banned from all social media sites.'' When I read this I got so mad, irritated, and not going to lie- feelings were a lil hurt. But then I quickly remembered that I had said the same thing re: fruits not that long ago and immediately felt like a hypocrite. In fact, that was totally a status I would have written before I got married. And this got me thinking. Í love my husband. I love posting about him on FB because frankly I never realized that someone could love me this much and I could be in love with someone as much as I love him. ANYWAYS, the point is I will call him hubby as much as I dang want. Especially when he surprises me with Bryan Adams tickets who I've been dying to see in concert for as long as I could breathe. Ok slight exaggeration- since college. And people can post about fruit or anything else to do with their baby as much as they want. It was very humbling all in all. I think what you post changes with different stages in your life-- and again this is just my opinion.
For me there are some things that cross the line in the oversharing world. I had a FB friend who once updated statuses mid labor. But who am I to judge the line of oversharing? Maybe some of their family was at work and the only way to keep in touch was through FB. Who knows. I've heard of some people posting when their kid uses the bathroom etc etc. The list goes on. My view is that if you don't like what people are posting or think some things are just crossing the line-- just block or defriend them. They probably aren't your good friends anyways. None of this is supposed to elicit arguments or disagreements. I just have been very humbled in my expereiences of sharing lately and personally I won't judge what people choose to write/update on their own page.
In fact, when our little man comes we would be CRAZY not to think we won't post pictures of him-- when he has his first smile, first bath, or just because. And our friends and family who care will WANT to see these pictures. And if you don't, then you should probably just defriend me now. I love looking at friends pictures who just had babies. I get advice, see what gear they are using, and get to watch them grow week by week. That person who posted the imfamous "fruit update" is long gone and will never ever be back. I'm a wife and now a mom-to-be and I couldn't be happier.
Rant over :)
PS. Feel free to comment as much as you want, but please remember that these are my opinions only. Don't wanna start no drama!
ryann (baby mama)