As I'm typing this, I just spent 20 minutes trying to get Cash down for his morning nap. We swaddled, we rocked, we shhh-ed, we did everything. I gently set him down in his rocker (we aren't to the crib yet) and fast forward 5 minutes later he is WIDE AWAKE LAUGHING AT THE FAN. Ok and now he is crying. I have so many questions I don't even know where to begin.
Let's go back.
Around 6 weeks we started Cash on a bedtime routine-- this coupled with the miracle blanket and an elevated sleeper was our ticket to sleep. He's been sleeping through the night ever since. (I know hate me all you want.) But along with that comes having to rock him to sleep and perfect the "put down'' aka transferring him from our arms to the rocker (we aren't to the crib yet). And that was totally fine in the newborn stage but now he needs to be rocked and shh-ed to sleep before bed and every nap. I always said around 4 months I'm going to start sleep training per the Ferber Method. Well here we are, 4 months tomorrow and I have the Ferber book on my lap read halfway through. My fears are: Why are we messing with him sleeping through the night? What if everything we have worked towards just gets reset back to zero? I feel like we need to sleep train and teach him to fall asleep on his own. I know it's a very controversial topic but personally I don't want to have an older baby that has to rely on us rocking him to sleep every night. I want them to learn how to sleep on their own. Also Cash sleeping through the night usually involves him stirring around the clock where I have to rock his sleeper with my foot to make sure he drifts back to dream land. So really I'm not getting a full night sleep anyways.
Then all this translates to nap time. He needs to be rocked, usually under the oven vent, for 20 to 30 minutes, then set gently in his rocker. And half the time he stays that way for about 5 minutes. Then you have to repeat the whole entire thing again.
This brings me to my second fear: the SWADDLE. Cash cannot and will not sleep unswaddled. He sticks his fingers in his mouth and refuses to shut his eyes. I have tried every.product.on.the.market. In fact if I get one more Amazon box in the mail, my family might disown me. If his hands aren't tied down in a swaddle he won't sleep. This is another habit I'd like to break sooner rather than later. So my question is-- do we stop swaddling and sleep train at the same time? Is that too much too fast? Also he needs to start sleeping in his crib- is doing all 3 at the same time just torture?
Right now I'm living at my parents house until we move in July 31. I'm thinking of starting the night we move in since his new room will be his permanent environment. It'd be too much to sleep train him at my parents right then start again in a new house? UGH.
I feel like I could literally type out a million questions. By doing all this am I asking for disaster? If you are out there PLEASE help me. Any advice is so appreciated. I know every baby is different but anything would help at this point. I've had people tell me don't mess with what you have, but I'm thinking long term....Dr. Ferber does say if what you are doing now is working then you probably shouldn't mess with it but at the same time he stresses that if what you are doing is hindering them from learning how to sleep on their own (aka rocking them to bed) then you need to rethink your approach. #sofreakingconfusing. If you really want to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or of course the FB message always works.